Expert Self-Defense Training for women - in one afternoon
(310) 575-3737 Women's Self-Defense in Los Angeles
Expert Self-Defense Training for women - in one afternoon
(310) 575-3737 Women's Self-Defense in Los Angeles
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Rolls and falls.
One of the very first instructions you learn in many fighting styles, especially with martial arts training is how to fall and roll. The reason for this becomes immediately evident when taking the training. Though I think every one of us should learn how to roll and fall at a very early age. When you are young you are more adaptable and less afraid so learning is quicker. It is easily evident when taking sports that knowing how to land with your body is invaluable whenever it leaves its normally safe perpendicular walking position.
I unfortunately have personally seen people who have no idea how to deal with losing their balance and falling. I also have seen what happens when people are pushed forward or backward and not immediately responding with the basic knowledge of what to do with their bodies and get hurt. The number of injuries to people especially as they age would be cut drastically if people had this basic knowledge of knowing what to do when falling, slipping, or being pushed to the ground.
When it comes to learning how to fall there are different ways. Let us say you can feel yourself heading towards the ground from feeling dizzy to losing your balance. I suggest learning to let your body just crumble to the ground. Basically, you are letting your body go straight down like you see professionals do with controlled explosions. They go straight down. Now when your body collapses down as far as it can in the vertical position you then allow your body to fall either on your left side or right side and tuck your chin to your chest. If you can use your hands to help out fine but if not you will fare a lot better than tipping over from a standing position and hitting the ground.
Now rolls take a bit more training. Though still quite simple. If you are falling say forward or being pushed if you just put out your hands your body may still be traveling a little too fast and cause damage to your hands, and your face also if you don’t turn your head sideways on the way down will cause your nose to break and lastly, if you do not slow down enough when your body hits the ground you will lose all your air very quickly and painfully.
So, what to do? If you can you use your arms like shock absorbers to slow down the body before it hits the ground that helps quite a bit. But what works really well is to let yourself do a somersault but go over your shoulder instead of your head which will keep your spine from getting damaged. You can learn how to fall no matter what direction your body heads toward the ground.
Offense and defense.
The offense is a term you probably hear most in sports. Why is it important to know about? The offense is half of the solution for self-defense. Offense is the part of self-defense where you move away from pausing and of course defending and shifting to an active solution. By active I mean a full-blown aggressive resolution. Offense can come after a long defense position or almost instantly. You have no guarantee when or how someone will decide to shift into a more aggressive or violent or offensive position with you.
Defense is always helpful and necessary. You must first determine that what you are experiencing is a threat to you and what might be an appropriate response equal to the challenge at hand. Sometimes just clearly and loudly saying ‘stop’ does the trick. Sometimes some push back like being assertive will help calm, slow down, or deter an offending person. Negotiating quite often could come into play.
Though at times it may take seconds or micro-seconds where you must determine your next move. If someone moves into an offensive position with you you have the right to defend yourself. Though you need conscious thought because you need to respond equally to the level of push, aggression, or offense coming your way. The law requires you to do this or you will be considered the aggressor.
Training is slow, accurate, and repetitive.
With self-defense, you want the training to methodical, simple, and practicable. Taking the slow road when being trained gives you the opportunity to see and think through the process so you can understand exactly what is happening. Doing a few simple tactics exceeds a training process.
First and foremost you have the opportunity to be accurate. Learning a few things with accuracy benefits you beyond any training that offers hordes of training but have you rush through so you do not get the basics of each. It is far better to know a handful of simply trained methods. I have seen too many students who know sort of how to do things and lucky if they have one or two training items they actually really know how to apply.
If you haven’t noticed yet in life... repetition is what most of us use to learn new things, especially those things that are not our number one interest in life. The process of repetition allows you to repeat a task so that both your mind and body find a rhythm that works. Muscle memory is something used in the Olympics, law enforcement, and sports like martial arts. What Conscious Defense strives for is to add the benefit of conscious thought which ups your abilities far further than any other process.
Negotiate and de-escalate conflicts.
Negotiating is part of life and I would dare to say daily life. Every person we meet we are negotiating something or other. We interact with family, neighbors, co-workers, people on the street or on the road, friends, and on and on. So, that brings up the point exactly how good are we at negotiating with all those people? Well, whatever level you are at I am sure there is room for improvement. Why improve? Again because we do it constantly and why not be good at something that is affecting your life daily.
De-escalating conflicts is an essential skill for all women but even more helpful for females who have to deal with misogyny in many areas of their life among other limiting thought processes they encounter. If you are at work or play being able to take people who have allowed themselves to become subservient to either their emotions or their physical drives matters not. It pays big dividends to be the one who brings down powerful out-of-control mindsets to an actual possible state where a solution is probable.
When using your negotiating skills to de-escalate conflicts you must move from a weak position while being assertive and firm but not aggressive yet prepared. It is a step process by being assertive and firm you awaken the person pushing that your position is not a pushover. By not being aggressive and yet prepared you keep your strengths close at hand. So, for some reason, the verbal method of changing the dynamic of a situation does not occur you are ready to defend yourself with a more powerful, aggressive, and life-saving approach.
Dating boundaries.
Whoever thought at this date and time women would have to still be wary of going on a date. It is quite insane that we still have such aggression and violence still in too many dates that unfortunately can lead to abusive treatment and rape. Though it is every man’s responsibility to change their interactions with other humans in society in an evolutionary fashion. Or otherwise, be more responsible for your actions. You no longer can blame others for your inability to grow up and realize you cannot use the force of any kind in a relationship just to satisfy your needs.
Yes, I have read many documents talking about our evolution. Man has been aggressively honed for millions of years to survive the hostile environment humans have been in and that includes today’s world. Even today we have many wars, conflicts, and fighting going on all around us for many different reasons. At the same time though we have been socializing and heading towards being civilized for almost the same amount of time. We have known for tens of thousands of years that interdependence works way better than everyone for themselves.
Even with that women need to set boundaries in what they allow in their world and they need to stay conscious. Staying conscious means not being taken in by that which 'shines' in our world: like a very handsome guy, a very rich guy, a very charming guy, a funny or entertaining guy, and on and on. Millions of women have been 'taken in' or victimized by guys like this who turn out to be 'users' only or psychopaths. Women really need to be 'forewarned'!
So what are we saying... until you really get to know someone keep your guard up, keep your awareness keen, and do not let a male perform an act that convinces you to go his way before you are sure you want to go that way no matter what the subject. I know enough women to be thoroughly convinced that women can do whatever they want in this life. So, do not let a little charm in whatever form manipulate you away from you being true to yourself.
Defending from your back on the ground.
Many people might think or say this is one of the worst positions to be in when attacked. Yes... but only to a degree. Of course, you do not want to end up on the ground. Though with your back on the ground, it is actually a lot better than being face down on the ground. Face down is a very challenging position to deal with an attacker. Though there isn’t any position you should give up from. Even with your face down on the ground, you can do things with your legs, hands, elbows, and head.
Here we want to look at what are the strong points when you find yourself on the ground. First, if you can get up off the ground that is best, if you can’t get up from being face down flip over so you have your back on the ground. Why? Have your back firmly against the ground then get your hands close and in front of your body. And most importantly have your legs bent so the bottom of your feet is on the ground about shoulder-width apart. This position will give you the best defense from being on your back on the ground.
The reason to have your body in the position we just described is you are now able to spin on your back using your feet to keep your attacker in front of your feet. The reason is your legs are 3 to 4 times stronger than your arms. In this position you not only can be ready for the attacker coming at you but you are in the best defense in having your body in a position to cause the most damage to your attacker. With your legs, you can kick the attacker in their knees, groin, ribs, head, or whatever gets close enough. Though it is key not to give away your attack until the last second then you thrust your feet with the use of your leg muscles as hard as you can into the attacker and do it over and over into whatever part of the body you can reach. And do not stop until you can easily get up to fight from the standing position or to get out of there.
A new mindset.
Turning yourself around from being afraid to fight for your life is definitely a mindset worth having. Taking a step toward facing your fears and allowing yourself to go from a safe place to aggression with full force is a mental gymnastic needed. Though only for your survival. Otherwise, you are what is called a loose canon... wreaking havoc on yourself others, and the world.
The only way to this transition is with a sane state of mind, discipline, and training. Your focus has to be on why are you making this transition. Simple... life. Either yours or a loved one. This is not to be taken in stride. This is a huge step to take. But in this world, we still have too many people that have little or no care or concern about other people’s lives. This circumstance is what makes this new mindset a necessity. Maybe in the future at some time all humans will evolve beyond this primitive uncaring mindset. It is only a small percentage of our society that still keep most of us behind locked doors almost all of our lives but a very dangerous group.
Make a conscious decision to transition from running scared to facing fear itself. It is amazing how much your life changes when you do what is necessary to turn the tide from fear by getting the knowledge you need. Turn in the old fear-based state to knowing that if you need to you can do what is necessary to survive an attacker.
You are learning self-evident fighting skills.
Our innate self somewhat similar to our primordial self has knowledge. The difference between the two is our innate self has a memory ability that is quite unique and special. Our innate self has every memory available to it. Anything that has happened in your life is in your memory.
Now some things took a lot of learning like walking, math, driving, science, and on and on. But as an example - once you learned to walk and run you could adapt to smaller side skills like skipping. In literally minutes most people can learn to skip. And there are many examples of this in our lives. Once you learn the basic structure of something you can formulate your past skills to refine a new one.
Fighting skills are part of our memories. In men, it is allowed throughout our lives to display. Fighting is easy. Doing it well is more of a challenge. Though if you are healthy, and know some forms of movements from sports, dance, yoga, or other body rhythms you can do it easier than not knowing any of these. Fortunately, most women have experience in some form of body movements. So, when you put that innate memory with basic body rhythms together you are very close to a solution. What to do next practice, practice, practice. Self-defense does not need a lot of fancy skills or movements. Knowing the basics is essential to defending yourself.
My favorite way to think of self-defense is thinking of it like a dance. If you let yourself go with the flow of the energy around you you will do well. The only difference is the flow of energy you do with self-defense is you are provided with a natural given solution and that is to flow right through an attacker to save your life by outdoing their violence with yours.
Your Primal force is liberated to assist you.
All life has a primal force. All life has a primordial essence. What is it all about? Simply... life. Life wants to live. No matter what form life takes it wants to keep living. It comes especially true when we are talking about extinction. Life will adapt in unbelievable ways to be able to perpetuate. Life will take on a whole new totally different form to adapt and live.
Just look around you. The diversity of the world is because of life wanting to live. Life adapts in every corner of this planet. It does not matter how hot or cold it is and life will be found. They even found an organism in the Siberian ice that was over a million years old and when they slowly warmed the ice to become water the organism returned to life. Now that is some living.
Now, this force is in all of us. If you allow yourself to release your force when needed in a life-and-death situation it will give you more strength and power than you could possibly imagine. The primal force will do everything in its power to keep you alive. The key here is to release the force when needed and only when needed. It will serve you well.
It is life-saving instruction.
There really is only one reason to take up Self-Defense and that is for saving your life or someone else. It is not the kind of thing that you just do on a whim. You must stop and think about life to realize that self-defense is a very valuable usable tool to have in your repertoire. And it is one of those tools that you can have with you at all times. You know this is an immense asset for you and you definitely do not want to find a tool like self-defense at the last minute.
I think of self-defense like I do about swimming. Yes, I enjoy a swim now and then but the main reason I took swimming lessons was in case of an emergency. It is a little late to be thinking about taking swimming lessons when you are already in the water. And just like swimming self-defense is a lifesaver.
Another field that correlates well with this is first aid. First aid is an amazingly useful knowledge base to have at your disposal. But pretty tough on you if you have no idea of what to do in an emergency if you have no training at all. So, it does not matter where you live... get out there and find someone that will teach you how to defend yourself. It truly is a life-long skill that is a life-saver.
Visualization or Imagery.
Practice practice practice. The way to do well is to utilize a tool that most of us are aware of... its called visualization. Visualizing anything of importance gives you clarity and confidence otherwise unavailable. That is the reason why everyone from composers, musicians, actors, athletes, and astronauts to orators or in fact anyone doing almost anything can benefit. Using your mind’s eye to see something clearly and then repeating that pattern in your mind is what greats in all fields do. Athletes in Sports and the Olympics especially make this obvious regularly.
Simulating doing anything in its ultimate form gives you access to synchronize with your body and mind. Interestingly, your mind can’t tell the difference between real and imagined. So, doing your practice helps your body create a wonderful muscle memory which is very useful. Adding the visualization allows you to transfer the mental practice into physical actions increasing your performance capabilities.
You can improve overall performance and excel at whatever discipline with your clear consistent thoughts. Even during physical downtime, you like athletes, can practice and improve. You can step through any scenario over and over to get it refined well beyond anything you can spend hours in the field trying. Your mental fine-tuning lets you oversee physical, mental, and emotional challenges in a unified method not normally experienced in the physical-only world.
Jocelyn A. Hollander (a quote from)
Learning self-defense empowers women in ways that go far beyond preventing assault. Self-defense training decreases women’s fear and anxiety and increases their confidence, their sense of self-efficacy, and their self-esteem. Learning self-defense helps women feel stronger and more confident in their bodies. Women report more comfortable interactions with strangers, acquaintances, and intimates, both in situations that seem dangerous and those that do not.
Laura L. Welch (quotes from)
Everyone has a primitive instinct. It’s just a matter of tapping into it.; Women’s Self-Defense is not a martial art. It is educated street fighting.; The name of the game is Survival.; There is no right or wrong style/technique. If it works, it’s a winner.; The most dangerous people are drugged, drunk, and/or deranged.; If you are ever the victim of an abduction never let your abductor take you to another location.; Don’t escalate a situation.; Always have an exit strategy.
Anyone can learn the basics of hand-to-hand combat.
What you may encounter or have encountered in your life is being confronted with another human being trying to overtake your body with their own body. When sometimes is using their physical body as a weapon against you you have to remember one thing. No matter the size of that person you are going to have to deter or stop them to the greatest degree possible of causing you harm.
Thinking, instruction, and training are the key components in dealing with a hand-to-hand attacker. As long as you keep your distance until absolutely necessary, remember size does not matter, and act with survival force you will prevail. Hand-to-hand combat is quite likely going to cause some physical pain and possible injury. Your key solution is to act to your maximum degree of force without hesitation or consideration to get the job done.
You must respond in hand-to-hand combat to the degree of the attack. You cannot fight using less than your all especially when someone is larger than you. Hand-to-hand combat is quick, and powerful with a specific intention. You must provide your full attention. You must use all your force. And you must stay the course until you are free.
Miguel de Cervantes. All that glitters.
Miguel de Cervantes wrote one of the most celebrated novels in history: Don Quixote. Miguel had by most views lived a very interesting though by many views a bizarre life. He was seen pretty much as a fearless guy especially after being shot twice and fighting in multiple wars. In many circles, he is considered the most famous Spanish writer of all time!
Miguel wrote "All that glitters is not gold" which can be a reminder to us because staying conscious means not being taken in by that which 'shines' in our world: like a very handsome guy, a very rich guy, a very charming guy, a funny or entertaining guy, and on and on. Millions of women have been 'taken in' or victimized by guys like this who turn out to be 'users' only or psychopaths!!
Women really need to be 'forewarned'! The key to self-defense more than anything else is awareness first. Learning the practices of predators of all kinds is to your advantage. Too many people play characters or roles like an actor that they use in interacting with others. It is a facade that is dangerous to the creator and those interacting with them. Though keep in mind lying or fabricating anything in order to maintain your life is always okay.
Halle Berry's movie "Kidnap".
Halle Berry in her recent 2017 interviews for her movie “Kidnap” has cautioned all women, and especially all mothers, to study self-defense to protect themselves and their children! Survival especially your own should be absolute when attacked personally or your children. Many mothers would do anything to save their children but do have the knowledge or skills.
Halle’s advice was to: 'find the superhero inside yourself'. What that means is you can defend your children and yourself. Though it also means you must find and learn how to use the tools necessary to do the job properly.
Halle is right with another point she made: ‘You can find and experience new strength in yourself that you did not realize you possess’. Your awareness, your efforts, your training, and your education of yourself and your loved ones will make all the difference in life and death-situations.
Be afraid no more. Never fear again.
Tough challenge. But a solution is at hand. Your focused attention to the world around you including all those you interact with or encounter is the key. Fear is based on our ignorance of a situation or problem or challenge. The lack of knowledge we have determines how we act and interact. Every moment in your life that you spend increasing your awareness pushes your fear from overcoming or disabling you in some way.
Think of anything in life that you have studied. When you first started out you were uncomfortable, fearful, afraid, uncertain, and maybe intimidated. But as you started down that road of knowledge things started to change. As you got more masterful the more ease you had in dealing with that subject in your life. Your fear no matter what form it is in should be about going from a state of ignorance to mastery. Never give up. Always forge on. Clear conscious thinking also known as awareness will always serve you well.
Proper guidance is the solution.
When it comes down to learning anything in life it is important to do your research your homework and find the solution that works specifically for you. What are your needs and goals when it comes to your security? How hostile is your environment? How often are you afraid? Do you have any knowledge of the necessities of security and safety?
Self-Defense encompasses a wide swath of necessary attention. Is your work environment safe? Are you safe in your home? Are you safe traveling to and from your home and work? Do you live in a dangerous area? Do you have family, friends, or partners around to complement or assist in your security and safety? All these and more questions should be thought about to find an overall solution.
Always, go to the best professional source you can afford and get the best advice before taking action. Even with all the right tools, training, equipment, resources, friends, and support you can never have too much of the key ingredient to your overall security and that is awareness. Continue at all times to hone your ability to become more and more aware. This single ingredient will benefit you more than any other investment in your safety.
Self-Protection for the rest of their lives. Protection for family and friends.
My friend like he has so often done clarified the invaluable asset Self-Protection is in someone's life. The answer to or for Self-Protection is to remove that fear from their life forever! Education is an invaluable lifelong benefit. We forget at times but it is so true. Life experiences are part and parcel of education. Doing... where we utilized our brains and body in a uniform solution to a problem amasses ourselves forward solidified in our resolve when given half a chance.
Self-Protection education springs one forward to a place beyond. Because it satisfies not only a current need but supplies us with lifelong knowledge that often can be fully functional with a little reminder or practice or focused thought or allowing our innate self to express itself without limitations. But doing is key. Step up... step forward... learn.
To go deeper... into life itself.
I am always surprised when given the opportunity in life to leap forward. To face life. To challenge yourself. To go beyond the normal day-to-day situations and habituations. How unusual life is when you step up to the precipice and without excessive analysis of your challenge/problem you quickly make a decision to deal/confront what stares you in the face.
Just like relationships our depth is essential to living a life of beyond normal. Sometimes our research overwhelms us to the point we become lethargic to the point of doing nothing or the very bare minimum. We know the level of depth we are in and we also know the level of apprehension to face ourselves. To go beyond. Our assets are our friends... male and female and every minuscule motion submerged into qualities of living makes life truly thankful to live.
How safe you made me feel... no longer vulnerable.
Wonderful words to hear from students. Though you do not always hear from students. When it happens you do appreciate it. I feel very thankful I was able to remove a level of fear we too often can feel living in this world. Maybe, we do not have fear, especially conscious fear, all the time but it is such a relief when we elevate ourselves above it. I remember how scared I was when I was being bullied as an example. The day I dropped my fear of bullies because of my training was like starting a new life.
Being able to face your fears and challenge those areas that have held you back or down is awakening to a fuller life. I am so thankful I turned the corner and dealt with my fear in a constructive useful way that has helped me my whole life. Yes, I know each step doesn't remove all fear or give us a bulletproof life. But it does allow one to enjoy this life a little better than ever before. Every step forward is invaluable to living a life that is enriched.
The adrenaline rush is needed. It doubles your strength. Important to know what physical resource is available to you. Especially at points in your life when your life depends on it. Adrenaline is a powerful asset in defending yourself. Clearly know it... for it can make the difference in saving your life. If you need to you can read the many stories of great strength performed when under the influence of adrenaline. Size no longer matters when you have adrenaline. The caution in this is to know that adrenaline is maximizing your power but only for short periods of time. You must utilize your temporary extraordinary power or it will go to waste.
The worst thing that can happen is to allow yourself to take all that power and turn it inward where it freezes your body in place and traps you from moving. The key is to know the power is there and you must choose to use it. One of the reasons I encourage my students, in a safe place, to let everything out and yell at the top of their lungs to open that aggressive portal we must enter to defend against aggressive behavior. It is sad but the reality is violence at times can only be stopped with violence.
Awareness and self-defense.
To excel at Self-Defense there is one major key to protecting you, saving you, and helping you more than anything else and that is awareness. The more you are aware the less chance anyone can take advantage of you or cause you harm. Awareness takes discipline, focus, and time. I assure every moment you refine your ability to be aware you produce a wealth of resources in your self-protection.
Awareness is a life-long pursuit and pays big dividends. Awareness bleeds over to all areas of your life. Whenever you have a free moment refine your ability to observe all visual, auditory, and emotional sensations around you. Practice engaging all your senses to aid your ability to be conscious of your circumstance.
When you think about it – is there anything more important to you than knowing what is going on in the world around you especially anything that might affect you personally. Being blind or ignorant of the facts in life only appears to work. Lies are illusions but can never have the strength to be of value or benefit in the makeup of life. Denying reality and being unaware can only impact your world and eventually produce failure.
Awareness will always serve you well in comprehending our world and protecting you in your dealings with disorder as you must deal with when defending yourself.
Empower yourself. NOW!
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